Twice striken by calamity.
My heart bleeds as I remember two of my Muslim sisters who were striken twice by calamity. May Allah ease their affairs, grant them succor and patience at this trying time.
The first one lost her husband, married again and lost the second husband. This is but a trial. May Allah keep her safe, uphold her iman and grant her fortitude to bear the loss. May He replace her loss with something better.
The second got married and went through a divorce. She married again and now she’s divorced.
Before you come with ‘obinrin sowa nu olo’un o ri ile oko gbe! Know that this is a trial. By Allah this is a test. This is someone I know very well. She’s not bad at all. At least what the two men said didn’t go in line with character. Allah knows best.
No woman is perfect but if you marry a good manager of conflict, your flaws won’t be open for public mockery or disgrace.
How many good women married crazy men and they’re counting bitterness by now.
How many bad women married good men and their flaws are protected. As my people will say ‘eni koko e ye lo mo lo’
I watched a video where a groom slapped his bride on their wedding day. What did she do? They were to feed each other with cake and the groom fed the bride first. When it was the bride’s turn, she tried to tease him by first withholding the cake. The next thing I saw was that he landed a slap on her face.
Can we say the woman erred? Of course no but she was unfortunate to marry an animal among men. This is exactly what I’m saying that staying long in a marriage or having a blissful one is not by our power or might.
Look around you and you’ll wonder why a good woman falls into the wrong hand. Things you do to your husband and go away with may spell doom for her. Men are of different species. May Allah grant our single sisters the best.
Staying long in a marriage is not about being good alone but by the mercy of Allah. There are bad and good days in a marriage. The bad days are better managed with a good spouse. The good days are enjoyed by both.
This is not to rule out the fact that some women are the architect of their own misfortune. They are so bad that even a good man can’t manage them. Now I’m not talking about such women but women who were tried by Allah not ‘afowofa’ Women are of different species too. May Allah grant our single brothers the best.
This night I remember this two sisters. May Allah ease their affairs and put smiles on their faces. May better days be granted to them and may they have cause to witness a blissful and lasting union. Aamin Ya Rabil’Aalamin.
Pray hard on your marriage and mock no one who’s going through marital turbulence. May Allah ease our affairs at all times.
Lateefah Adewunmi Jumah